An Open Letter to Twitter Bullies

If there is one thing I am passionate about, it’s bullying. Not to bore you with details about myself, but I was physically and emotionally bullied in junior high and high school. And you know what? It nearly destroyed me to the point where I no longer was happy. It was a hard 4 years, but 3 years later, I am happier than ever. So when I see people get bullied online or in-person, it pains me. I know what thoughts are going through your head. But guess what? That person does not own you. They don’t matter. Never let anyone take away your self-respect.

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Lately, all I have seen on Twitter are people bullying one another over ships. Let this sink in: they are fictional. Who are you to reprimand someone for not liking your ship? Who are you to call them ‘idiots’, a ‘bi***’, ‘worthless’? As someone who has been on the receiving end of some nasty tweets for shipping my ship (Captain Swan), I can honestly say it sucks. Then I realize, it’s not worth feeling upset over. Those people have no idea who you are and they have nothing else to do but try to tear you down. So while I used to get upset over trolls dragging me on social media, I asked myself why do I even care? And I realized that I don’t care.

Like I said, they’re just bullies.

I will never judge you for shipping or not shipping a ship. You hate CaptainSwan? Okay. (Although, gasp, how does one hate CaptainSwan?! lol) You hate Swan Queen. Okay. You ship CaptainSwan? Yay, I probably love you. You ship Swan Queen. Okay. You do you and ship away.

The big part of fandom is to be with people who get you. But ships are constantly at each other’s throats. SHIP WHO YOU WANT AND LEAVE EVERYONE ALONE. I know we all can’t get along because let’s face it, that’s reality. However, stop dragging people who don’t drag you. It’s that easy. I am a very opinionated person, but I manage to keep my thoughts to myself. I see some awful tweets about my ship, but I’m not about to bully you into saying that you’re wrong.

You just don’t know what the person you’re dragging is going through. In fact, there have been times I contemplated deleting, but I have made so many great friends on Twitter. I decided not to let the bullies get to me. And you shouldn’t either! (PS…I love heart you my CaptainSwan and other shipper mutuals)

If you every need someone to talk to, reach out to me! My Twitter handle is @onceuponamads or my personal is @MeMadeline2. Just know that you shouldn’t feel bad about shipping a ship. If it makes you happy, I’m happy for you! I’ve met some nice people who ship SwanQueen or RumBelle and it’s great. I don’t ship those ships, but I respect that they do and they respect I ship CaptainSwan. It’s all about how you choose to conduct yourself. Fangirl or fanboy your little hearts out!

Okay, I’ll get off my soap box. Mostly because I need to walk across campus to get pizza. Yes, I do NEED pizza. Pizza is life.

xoxo,
Madeline

UGH: Ship Wars

Part of being in a fandom is shipping. And it’s one of the best things about being in a fandom. We all have shipped characters. Even if you’re not in a fandom, you unintentionally ship characters. You just technically don’t know the correct fangirl term for it.

The reason why I’m writing this post is because every time I go on Twitter, I see negative tweets or hate towards other over a ship. First off: that’s cyberbullying. Second: we have to remember these characters are fictional. Third: it’s really not that hard to keep your mouth shut about ships that you hate.

I wish I could log onto Twitter without seeing so many nasty comments. Sometimes I will tweet innocent things about how much I love CaptainSwan. (I have never and will never tweet about ships that I don’t like). Yet, I still get some rather rude tweets directed my way because of who I ship. I just don’t understand that. If who I ship makes me happy, but you don’t like that ship, what does it matter to you? I’m not offending you or your ship. Ship who you want and respect those who ship others. Like I said, it’s not hard! 🙂

I have thought so many times about deactivating just because it’s gotten to the point where nothing I read is positive. When I joined fandoms, shipping was all about fun and positivity. Now it’s almost to the point where you’re skittish about posting something in fear of ‘trolls’ attacking you. Obviously I haven’t deactivated (I love Twitter too much), but I choose to ignore the hate. CaptainSwan, OutlawQueen, etc gets so much hate. And why? Because you don’t like it? Who cares…if you don’t ship it, then don’t ship it. But let those who do enjoy who they ship. I’m not saying that you have to love everyone’s ships, but remember that we all don’t ship the same characters. And that is totally okay. That’s a fandom for you.

Okay. I’ll get off my soapbox now. I just needed to rant. Just remember that whenever you think about criticizing someone’s ship, think about how YOU would feel if they criticized yours. We all have feelings and we all have the right to ship whomever we want. If you respect my ship, I’ll respect yours. Easy!